try·st·imu·li

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i have been pretty sure that i was demisexual or grey-ace since i learned that terminology.

though i’ve also been pretty sure that that’s at least partially due to a particular tramatic relationship.

this tends to be reflected in my sex dreams - if i don’t know (at least dream-know) the other people well it’s a bad sex dream. very convenient for my practice of telling (real) people about my dreams involving them.

but there’s been a few things lately that have me thinking that i may be becoming allosexual?

for example i woke up last night from a good sex dream about a (real) person that i don’t know well. i do have an intellectual crush on them. and i am interested in befriending them. and as far as i can tell they are the sort of person that i would be interested in iff they are poly and we were friends. i’m definitely not telling them about it, that would be creepy. (unless of course we do at some point establish a friendship that would be comfortable in at some point) but the point is that jumping straight to sex dream without the intermediary steps is something i’m not sure i’ve ever experienced, even pre-tramatic-relationship.

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